Welcome to CruisersForum, Soul Sister.
The first decision you have to make is chosing between symmetrical (with pole) and asymmetrical / cruising (without pole but possibly with bowsprit).
IME, symmetrical gives a better performance on a cruising yacht (really efficient on a broad reach or dead downwind) but needs more work (more lines to adjust, gybing) and is more costly (the pole, more lines, more blocks).
My boat is 30' and the symmetrical spinnaker
is manageable by 2 people in cruising conditions.