Your problem is a resonant frequency in the back stay. All physical objects have resonant freqencies, and engineers spend a lot of
money getting them outside hearing range - remember when old cars boomed at particular speeds, and Comet jet airliners came apart in air?
That said, anything you do that changes the resonant frequency of your backstay will in turn make the new resonant frequency one that the
mast etc. does not resonate at (wow) sympathetically. Loosen it, hang a
fender on it, divide it in half by inserting a tie-off; just get in there and find what works and is convenient to your situation.