The Hex of the Ex?

[texasnielsen]

Is there a rule?

I.e., many have heard of the no bananas on board, be it just boating or fishing.

What about ex-wives aboard?

Son recently graduated from SMU with MBA; his mum comes to town to visit. He is looking to entertain her and asks if he can bring her out to the marina for an afternoon cruise. The new wife is quite okay with this as she, the ex and I get along appropriately (been divorced for over 20 yrs from the ex).

First the SeaRay AC will not start. Port carb decides it's time for a rebuild. Or something. Okay, let's just all jump on the express cruiser. Had a beautiful sunset cruise on it the prior evening... Make it out of the marina and the starboard water pump decides to quit. Seriously? Limp back in and try to make the best of it and just hang out on the dock for the rest of the day (we are the end slip and candidly, that in itself is not too bad a place to have to enjoy the water).

After moving everyone's gear and lunch back on the dock, my nose starts bleeding, pretty heavily I might add, out of the blue. WTH?

So I ask all the salts on this forum, young and old- did I break some cardinal rule about approving of an exwife on a new vessel? She was very nice the entire day and never once did I feel daggers being thrown my way. Or should I have?

[Badsanta]

Yeah, I blame my ex for everything.

[gamayun]

Hmm, you sure you didn't sabotage a few things and bang your nose intentionally to ensure the ex never agrees to an invite like this again

[boatpoker]

karma ?

[JPA Cate]

Nah, sometimes *bad stuff* happens. New boats have stuff going wrong on their first voyage frequently.

Anyhow, welcome aboard.

Ann

[Pelagic]

It could have been worse... . especially if she had a perfect afternoon and asked the son to make this a regular thing.

[robert sailor]

Ex's should not go anywhere around your boat, it's bad vibrations man, gonna lead to some real crap luck.
Actually it's great that you get along well with your ex, it's especially good for your Son.

[zeehag]

your luck is what you make it.
just donot leave port on friday.

[Yong SC]

This is great coz I so wanna to ask about 'seafarers beliefs/superstitions'.

Here in Asia, when we have a whole fish at a meal, we NEVER flip the fish around after we finish one side. We carefully lift the bones, and continue on the other side. Flipping a fish is bad luck (capsizing). Any more truths and myths to share?

[Jesse]

Yup, you're pretty much screwed. I've discovered if "Old Sweaty" is on the same continent with me nothing goes quite right.

[TraderJoe]

Humm'!
Not all ex's are like enemy's at first glance...just like all boats are not just fine on the maiden voyage!!!
Marriage and buying a new boat have some interesting parallel's!
1st year-Maiden Voyage/The honeymoon..."isn't this fantastic? Everything is so nice and new!"
2nd-7 year itch...got some different sails..."honey, me and the boys are sailing down to Bahamas...no wives or girls"
3rd-trouble in the home...major refit-below the waterline..."I know my plumbing isn't working that great, but I can fix that!"
4th-no ones talking...caught in the doldrums..."nothing's moving and all the tell-tale signs don't look that promising!"
5th and final-I'm talking to an attorney-your 44 footer just rear-ended a ladies cat..."hey, it can happen to anyone after a few rum runners!"

Divorced 1988
She's never been on my boat even after she's asked nicely!
It will stay that way!
Cruise on everyone!
Joe

[TurninTurtle]

Ex's are bad juju any time.

They are your ex for a reason...

[ozdigennaro]

Remember the fallacy: "Post hoc ergo propter hoc".
Random means "without cause" (among other things).

[kmacdonald]

You knew she was a witch when you kicked her to the curb didn't you?

[Nikki S]

Naah.
and if there is a "rule", you should not believe it.
Common sense will save you more often than not having a banana, a friday or changing the boats name.
Rules should be more like "don't leave port with the bungs out".
If your ex was nice and enjoyed that day, and gets along with your current wife, all that means is that she is a good ex, and that is v.good for your son.