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Old 25-08-2010, 06:26   #1
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Nic Goes . . . and I Go Solo

There was plenty of tears today as theres still plenty of love but Nicolle flew out to Australia to pursue some of her own dreams and adventures while I start learning to solo sail.

Nic is a bit younger than the average age of cruiser and her remarkable mind isn’t ready for retirement whilst its at an age when most of the worlds significant scientists have made their breakthroughs.

I think cruising has given her the courage to be able to follow her own mind.

So she carefully said goodbye to every part of Sea Life today with a heavy heart. I think the boat shivered a little as we took the dinghy to shore.

I will take the reins of Sea Life single handed but I’m not a solo sailor.
I am looking for crew for the trans Atlantic, but I feel I want to get this first leg sorted out myself. The run around Gibraltar will teach me how to solo sail or I will be a quivering wreck!

Lifes not too bad when everyone can be happy. We are both sure we will be, and each other will be. We were just so damn mature about it.


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Old 25-08-2010, 06:40   #2
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Call me crazy, but something tells me you'll do fine. Have fun and just be careful I heard there's a big rock near Gibraltar.

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Old 25-08-2010, 06:42   #3
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Wait, is this your way of saying your wife left you because she had enough of the crusing life? And now she's going back to Australia, leaving you someplace near France?

Well that would rather suck.

I'd dare say I wouldn't be that mature about such a thing. Good luck to you, and be careful. You've always seemed to be a couple steps ahead of the game, so I'm sure this will work out as well.
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Old 25-08-2010, 06:42   #4
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Best of luck to you both Mark. It's tough to be mature sometimes isn't it?

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Old 25-08-2010, 06:48   #5
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Take your time. Get comfortable.

I'm lost for words and that doesn't happen often.
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Old 25-08-2010, 06:53   #6
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What lousy luck.... Atleast youu have the boat. I am sure you are aware that you cannot evade all the stages of the emotional process. We may delay but we don't get out of it. Now is the time to double check your judgement. I for one want to keep seeing your excellent remarks here. No mistakes Captain.

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Old 25-08-2010, 06:55   #7
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Jeeze Mark, what a stunner. I admire your equinimity. I hope, in the long run, this turns out well for you and Nic. We wish you both the best...


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Old 25-08-2010, 07:02   #8
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Lots of commiserations and thoughts. have sent you a PM too.
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Old 25-08-2010, 07:06   #9
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I hope you both find what your looking for, and that you find that comfort soon. Life is a cruse, you could stay in the harbor and never need to overly worry about the weather, but I doubt you would call that living. I know I don't.
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Very very sorry about the news, Mark. You will be OK, but take a deep breath before departing though. Troubles best left ashore.

As for your trans, nothing to worry. If you are heading back to Carib to complete your CN, should be rather easy. Best thing is to keep busy so your mind doesn't wander. Keep a routine and don't dwell too much on the moment or the given circumstances - sad or otherwise. You'll be fine.
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Old 25-08-2010, 07:26   #11
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So sorry to hear that Mark. Hope it turns out for the best in the long run. Short term take care, ride out the storm and let it all happen. It takes time to readjust after being at such close quarters .Take that time.
All the best to Nicolle too .
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Damn Mark, that is tough. I wish you the best. Cruising can be tough on relationships.
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Old 25-08-2010, 07:30   #13
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Dang!...just plain Dang! I can do at the moment my friend...hang in there..and by all means let the tears fly just don't drown in them...depression is your worst enemy.

Wish we were all there for a big group hug.

All my best.


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Change, even when it's for the good, can be so difficult. I sincerely wish you both the best in finding your new directions.
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Very saddened to hear this. I wish nothing but the best for you and for Nic.

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