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Old 14-12-2009, 00:36   #1
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My Confession

As some of you may know, ive been living aboard with my other half for the past few months. Sadly, it has come to an end and ive returned to UK.
I adapted well to boat life and whilst I loved the location and country, at this time of year there was only one other English speaking couple in the boat yard some days and I was starved of contact with others, unable to communicate with locals and didnt even have tv to watch. The only point of contact with the outside world was via the net for radio and email and the connection was slow and intermittent, restricted to a total 5 hours per day, when we could get on line. It often failed to send mail or log onto most web sites.

In addition, he has lived alone for many years and shuns the outside world, so I found it very difficult to socialise and communicate which I need very much. Everyday has been a workday and we got a lot of work done on the boat and it was heartbreaking watching everyone going out sailing most days in glorious Med weather while we were covered in dust, paint and grease. Im not going to run him down, hes a good, kind guy, just not suited to a relationship or sharing his space. I will miss him a lot.

My dream has run out of road for now and im single again. But im wiser than I was 3 months ago, I now understand more of what many people chat about on here, ive lived aboard, and even though it was on the hard, ive got experience of living aboard at close quarters with the heads, galley, etc and know the challenges that people in houses dont know exist.
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Old 14-12-2009, 01:36   #2
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Im sorry to hear things did not work out for the 2 of you, but also happy you tried, you never know until you try! Good luck !
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Old 14-12-2009, 01:44   #3
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Thanks Ram, its better to regret having done something than to regret not having done it.
I dont regret a moment of it.
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Old 14-12-2009, 01:55   #4
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Thanks Ram, its better to regret having done something than to regret not having done it.
I dont regret a moment of it.
an Attitude of Gratitude makes all the difference in life!
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((((((((hug)))))))) He's still out there, your knight, just don't give up

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Old 14-12-2009, 04:58   #6
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Sorry it didn't work out Anjou as I rememeber how happy you sounded when you were going to do this. Gald that from your posting that it didn't end in bitterness like so many relationships that end.
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I was just thinking about you the other day! Good to see you posting again. Also good to see your positive attitude is maintained!.........i2f
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Good to have you back with us - we missed you.
Sorry that it didn't work out as planned but that happens with many things, not just relationships.

And thank you keeping CF in the info loop
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Hang in there, Anjou!.. There are countless numbers of us worldwide who share the love of being on the water - I am sure you'll be back under a sail soon enough.
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I share the sentiments in all the above posts especially the big ((((((((HUG)))))))))!
In all selfishness I must admit that I have missed you around here.
Will you be changing your avatar again?

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There ya go hunni, just for you. Not the most recent pic but I havent smiled much lately.
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Thanks....that’s our girl!
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Good to have you posting here again. There are very social sailors and those who are not so much. I think the ones who socialize most are the ones belonging to clubs whether a yacht club or a sailing club. That might be a good place to find the talkative ones.

Good luck in finding the right Mr. Right.

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