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Old 26-10-2016, 06:35   #91
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Especially as one gets older the pool of possibles gets smaller. I think this is true both for the female who seeks a partner and also for the men.

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Old 26-10-2016, 08:42   #92
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Damn, Weavis, that analysis was better than anything I've ever read from advice columnist Carolyn Hax (she's with the Washington Post and is no nonsense about relationships). Maybe we can start a lonely hearts forum (for singles as well as couples) and you could moderate/advise. Waddya think? Frankly, I'm always a little surprised when men find themselves still single for long. If one looks at the demographics of dating sites, they skew strongly female. If one looks at the demographics of singles in real life, they also lean female (except for Alaska, I suppose); though I have no idea if that fits the rest of the world. I'd be curious to know how long men are truly single. Poll, anyone?. I suspect it's not for long. As for the choices we make in a partner, if we look hard enough, a pattern emerges, which is why there is bitterness that all men/women are the same. We're just making the same choices over and over again but expecting different results! Hard to break those habits, too, especially once we get older and "set in our ways."
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Thanks to whomever posted the fitness singles site. Seems a whole lot better than match. We'll see. I was able to post a profile and pictures, but having a hard time with the search feature or responding to anyone. Glad I went out sailing this morning!
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Thanks to whomever posted the fitness singles site. Seems a whole lot better than match. We'll see. I was able to post a profile and pictures, but having a hard time with the search feature or responding to anyone. Glad I went out sailing this morning!
Most of the sites will let you create a profile, look at matches and post pictures, but they're gonna want your money if you want to make contacts. Very few of them are free, but of course, you get what you pay for

A word of caution. I think a lot of the dating sites aggregate member profiles so you might see a bunch of good possibilities, but the reality might be that few of them are actually members with paid subscriptions. It will work though if you maintain a healthy bit of skepticism throughout the process along with a willingness to be open to meeting people.
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“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

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I'm sure they're having sex more often than I am so I suppose it all balances out in the end
I wouldn't bet your life savings on that one.
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I have lived and worked on four continents during my adult life and always felt lonely in the western world. I won't write an in-depth analysis but I feel this is largely due to the increased appreciation of materialism and on the other hand the decrease in family values in general. It feels like relationships and even marriages have become more instant consumption goods rather than for life. It seems people appreciate material possessions over relationships and families, and I do not believe people are any more happy on average than say 40 or 50 years ago.
I have been in South East Asia for the last 4 years or so and feel that people are much more happy over here, although in general less wealthy. But divorces are on the increase over here also, sadly.

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Damn, Weavis, that analysis was better than anything I've ever read from advice columnist Carolyn Hax (she's with the Washington Post and is no nonsense about relationships). Maybe we can start a lonely hearts forum (for singles as well as couples) and you could moderate/advise. Waddya think? Frankly, I'm always a little surprised when men find themselves still single for long. If one looks at the demographics of dating sites, they skew strongly female. If one looks at the demographics of singles in real life, they also lean female (except for Alaska, I suppose); though I have no idea if that fits the rest of the world. I'd be curious to know how long men are truly single. Poll, anyone?. I suspect it's not for long. As for the choices we make in a partner, if we look hard enough, a pattern emerges, which is why there is bitterness that all men/women are the same. We're just making the same choices over and over again but expecting different results! Hard to break those habits, too, especially once we get older and "set in our ways."
The answer to most things is that you have to know yourself.
I can afford to be choosy. I can afford it because to be not choosy costs way more than you would believe.

I have woken up with someone and not only have lost love for them, I have actively begun to dislike them. That is something I could have avoided if I had observed the red flags. That part of the issue was entirely my fault.

I have a suspicion that at some point, most people settle for a partner because they have become desperate or need a close physical outlet in the dream they have created in their mind.

I dont really mind if the person I end up with doesnt want to be a liveaboard or a full time sailor, simply because I know its not that big a deal for me. Of course I want someone who will go sailing and spend time on a boat, but I have no hankering to devote myself to life on the water, Its my hobby and love, but the rest of life has a place too.

As long as the person is happy in my presence and has love for me, then its a good start. Anything can be discussed from there.

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Thanks everyone, but im still single......
So, can you tell us what you have been doing to find a mate? We can't fix you, but maybe we can offer something more specific
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You could try to use this:
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But I would not recommend it:
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It seems that from time to time a miracle happens even if 98% is bull and it works mostly as an escort site.
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So, can you tell us what you have been doing to find a mate? We can't fix you, but maybe we can offer something more specific
Well i joined a dating site, pof, which i didnt seem to be able to meet ladies interested in sailing for longer than an afternoon, if that. It seemed a bit fickle and icky, the way people shopped each other.
I wasn't exactly after a instant full on relationship, but some female companionship, a friend with similar goals and stuff.
If i did go to my local bar people seemed more interested in my adventure and saw me as someone who wouldn't be around for long. Women with children had no interest in leaving or taking their kids., fair enough.
Anyway, someone here suggested lovesail, so i signed up, but I feel crewbay maybe more suitable. That way i can meet some leaving from Florida and know their plans etc, anyway watch this spot...
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Am I the only one actively staying single? Luckily, my stunning personality makes it rather easy.
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Am I the only one actively staying single? Luckily, my stunning personality makes it rather easy.
Nope. But I like some action. I accept the hassle of female companionship, as the price of doing bidness.
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Manawatu - are you in FL or Oz? Was confused about your comment "leaving from Florida." If you start to despair, just reread Weavis' comments above!

Goat - I don't blame you for staying single. Most of us women have also dated one too many goats in the past

Polux - seriously...?! Clicking on links like that could spread CTDs!
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