I met my guy online. Just an ordinary dating site. I didn't sail yet but "met" many who did.
No matter what you do, just do it to have fun. Don't take dating seriously. "Serious" come after spending time with someonè. Just spend time getting to know others. Plan some dates that are fun and not too personal.
I met a lot of folk who seemed to take online dating as a hook up matcher. That wasn't my thing but I still found plenty of dinner, mini golf, movies, plays and concert companions. Lots of folk looking for something to do without making a big deal of it. I think I spent a year with a new date every night if I wanted it. If you don't take dating seriously you feel freer to be yourself and talk about ýour interests. Don't hold back now! I estimated there were about 40,000 men
in my area, of similar age and status. Surely there would be a few who shared my interests? Yup. Quite a few really. I have kept one of those dates for 6 years now.
Quit looking for "an angle" like specialty sites. Take the pressure off yourself and just have fun. Go ahead. Invite your dates for a sail. Get out of your own head
worrying about finding people to like you, know you are fabulous, and put your self into getting to know someone else. Weird idea huh?
It's really funny
thouģh, the lonely hearts clubs are full of people who try really hard to "fit", and in doing so they hide themselves. The best remedy for that is to not hide yourself and don't be shy about knowing what you want. Just refuse to accept anyone who does not offer you what you seek. Including be willing to sail. It's OK to say, this isn't working for me after the first date. Go ahead date several at once. Just have fun with it all. You will find that special person when you suddenly realize you keep inviting them back. No rush to comMIT or get a commitment. Just have fun trying it all out.
Ps, just noticed the comment about land lubbers...maybe it's not the land, perhaps it's rushing them with pronouncements about your plans. If you are going soon, they must realize you are leaving before they are even sure of you at all. Better to run than be ditched!