It's all a game
of the sexes controlled by hormones.
Now after many years of manipulation, on both sides, trying to gain the approval of a mate has always been disappointing. I really understand the old custom of arranged marriages.
One should always look for the approval of a good mentor when choosing a mate. The hormones distorts ones ability to make good decisions thru fantasy. E.g Arm candy, trophy wife, rich man, tall-dark-handsome. Seldom thru common interests and expectations. The strength of family
in America has about diminished. There are way too many variables in modern society.
This is a good reason for strong boarders. Pretty soon it'll be near impossible to find someone who's a match with commonality.
We all want to get our needs met, but manipulators use underhanded methods. Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics. Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering, as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in reality itís to achieve an ulterior motive. Other times, itís veiled hostility, and when abusive methods are used, the objective is merely power. You may not realize that youíre being unconsciously intimidated.
Fake concerns are sometimes used to undermine your decisions and confidence. Yata, yata, yata! There is a whole lot that can be said about maturing and being properly trained, which has become lost
in the world of diversity.
Now in my senior years I look back and see how foolish I've been chasing after fantasies, most commonly now called dreams. "In your dreams" Love is just another 4 letter word that needs to grow, not found!