The author has given much thought to the subject and is not without wisdom. However, the subject can be stated very simply and that is that one's perceived notion of cruising does not correlate to the reality. Cruising is not an easy life for those whose perceived notion is pictured in the turquoise waters and resplendent sunsets of a picturesque anchorage, sipping White Burgundy and eating Brie as depicted in cruising magazines although we have all experienced these magical moments. However, whatever history
these couples bring to the table, they will never adjust since they lack the spirit of true adventure which necessitates a much different mindset and personal history
. They couldn't make the transition from daysails from a marina to tossing the lines and heading into the unknown. It was beyond their personal scope
. This is why many "cruisers" ,who haven't thrown in the towel but remain frightfully insecure, prefer to travel with the herd since the herd offers them a semblance of what they left behind on land and allows them to meekly follow this amorphous blob from marina to marina and anchorage to anchorage in relative protection. I don't feel sorry for them since they had the courage to pursue a dream and, in a positive note, have come to realize who they really are as people. How can that be bad? Good luck, good sailing and may we never stop dreaming.